February 3, 2019
Ahh February! Welcome to the month of quitting. At least for me, February is my “busy month” and no matter how strong I started in January with my resolutions, in February, I quit.
Between 3 birthdays, Valentine’s day, and working full time, I’m exhausted and burnt out. Also, our household inevitably gets some sort of sickness or we need to go to lots of appointments in February no matter how much Vitamin C we take.
My excuse list is long and solid. I have so many reasons why I quit in February, and our society would totally back me up on them! I’ve been reading Rachel Hollis’ book “Girl Wash Your Face” and she talks about how collectively, as a society, we have SO many resources for “What to do when you quit” or “Where to go from here”. Here meaning when you’ve quit something. There’s tons of articles, books, videos, etc. of motivation for once you’ve already quit something. How to pick yourself back up. How to make yourself feel less guilty about quitting. What to do when you’ve “fallen off the wagon”. But no one is out there telling you how to stay on the wagon. And to be frank, it’s just a wagon! How do we “fall off” it so much? Falling off a unicycle would be a better analogy, because it’s actually not hard to fall off a real wagon, just saying.
But falling off a unicycle (yeah I’m rolling with this now) is super easy. It’s as easy as saying “I’m too tired” or “I’m too busy”. So we all do it, and we fall, and we watch motivational YouTube videos, read a Rachel Hollis book, make a Pinterest board and then…. What? What do we do? Do we get back on the unicycle? Or do we just make a really good plan to, and then stay off with our excuses?
I’m not going to lie to you, I slack hard. I quit a lot. As soon as the smallest challenge hits me, I’m done. If I’m trying to get in shape and I get strep (true story of my life right now), I usually use that as “I need to rest” and one day turns into 3 months. Next thing I know, it’s May and I’m crying in Target because I feel too fat to buy a swim suit (also true story of my life).
BUT NOT THIS YEAR DARN IT!!
First of all, Target needs to stop putting out swim suits in January. No one is swimming in Kansas in January and no one has their beach bods yet. Just chill until March people, gosh!
Secondly, I’m not falling off this unicycle anymore. That’s right, I’m breaking the cycle of “aww it’s okay, as long as you take care of your mental health and feel happy, you can quit working out!” Cause for me, that’s a LIE. I’m tired of society babying me into thinking it’s ok to quit “as long as I’m happy”. Of course I’m happy shoving my face with Reeses and watching Hulu when I get off work, but that’s not making me a better person in any way.
So I’m here to tell you how to stay on the damn wagon/unicycle. And I’m going to say it, your excuses suck. My excuses suck. I’m not too busy, I don’t work too much, I’m just lazy and quitting when it’s hard. So this month, every week I’ll be making a new blog post about how to stay on this dang wagon because that’s what we need to hear more of. We have way too many resources for what to do when we fail, but not how to succeed when it’s hard and you have a busy life.
So for this first post here’s tip #1 to staying on the dang wagon: Make it a Habit.
Whatever you’re trying to accomplish, whether it be working out every day, eating a healthy meal, reading, or journaling, make it a habit. It only takes 21 days to get into a “habit”. That’s about 5.5% of your year or 0.07% of your life (if you live to be 80). That’s ALL it takes to change your life. So here’s how you make it a habit.
-Write it down. Put it in your planner. Schedule time for it. Make it a priority. You have to show up for work from 9-5 right? You also tell yourself you HAVE to workout from 6-7. You write it down and make it a plan. You can’t afford to miss it. If you really want to change things, you can not afford to skip it or push it to the next day. Write it down and check it off when you’re done. Cross it off your “to do” list and feel proud of yourself. Do it every day, until it becomes second nature to you.
-Challenge yourself and don’t be scared when it gets hard. When you’re tired, sore, or feeling lazy, don’t give up! You can do way more than you even know. Your mind and body are capable of doing so much more than you can imagine, so be ready to challenge that and unlock further potential! For me, I know my body can do AMAZING things! I’ve created life in there! I’ve also been able to put my foot to my ear and spin around while doing it (dance life). So I know I’m sore and achy now, but my body CAN do more than this. I want to see how far it can go. I think one of the saddest things in life would be dying before I ever got to see just how much my mind and body can do, the potential I had not being used.
-Your excuses suck. If you tell me you’re going to the gym every day and then a week later tell me you only went once, I’m going to call you out on it. And I wish someone would call me out on it! You need people to support and motivate you, not tell you “oh it’s okay!” As much as it’ll drive you nuts (yeah my husband drives me nuts with this) you need someone to say “Hey, why aren’t you going to the gym?” or “Oh how far along in your book are you?” and keep you accountable in the beginning. My husband is great at this, he even hides the chocolate and candy in the house so I can’t snack on it all day. He tells me “aren’t you going to workout today?” when he sees me lounging on the couch. He challenges me to Apple Watch competitions because he knows it’ll push me harder (I’m a sore loser). All the reasons why you can’t, suck. All the reasons why you can, will take you so far. So stop telling yourself all the lame excuses, because it’s easy when you just suck it up and do it. You don’t have to be your best every day, but you have to TRY every day to see results.
So this February, we’re not quitting. No matter how good or bad January was, we’re NOT QUITTING THIS MONTH! Can you hear me now with my caps lock and stuff?! You and me, we’re not giving up because it’s hard. We’re not too busy. We can and we will! So I’ll be back next Sunday with another update and tip for ya, and I hope you all can comment or reach out and tell me how YOU stay on this dang wagon, because we need more of that in 2019. So stay strong, make it a habit, and I’ll see you next week!