February 10, 2019
Hello friends! How are you doing this week?! Still going strong on the wagon? Or did you let yourself fall off? I hope it’s the first, and I hope you’ve started with tip 1 on making a habit.
I’ve been working, did my first inventory at work, celebrated my husband’s birthday (even though he was sick as a dog), and worked on some photography stuff for my 2020 reps!
This week I’m going to focus on something I personally suffer with, depression. Falling short on resolutions is easy enough for your average normally chemically balanced person. Let alone when you have depression.
Depression is a tricky little witch because it tells you all the things you don’t want to hear. And fun plus, there’s no “off” switch! You’re stuck with this little buddy 24/7 365 days a year. To be honest, depression isn’t nice. It makes you not be so nice too. Sure, you can be super supportive and loving to your friends and family, but man do you beat yourself up! Depression tells you that you can’t, shouldn’t, and won’t. It makes getting even the simplest tasks done feel like you just ran a marathon. So how in the world are you supposed to keep your house clean, exercise, or cook at home when depression tells you to just go to bed instead? Here’s tip #2 for this week: Put up a fight.
– The first and hardest thing to fight is the lack of motivation. You’re sleepy, you did a lot today at school or work, and the last thing you want to do is brave Walmart at 5pm on a Friday. Motivation level is 0. This will go hand in hand with last week, you have to make yourself do it. Do it because you scheduled it, and tell yourself you HAVE to. This is something you have to do for yourself, you don’t have to love it. In fact, with depression, you’ll probably hate doing it. But you’re not doing it to love it every day, you’re doing it to be a better YOU, and that comes with consistency. So you don’t have to be motivated and happy to do it, just make yourself do it.
– This flows right along with making yourself do it to accomplish the goal, instead of doing it to enjoy it. The next thing is to set your expectations low, or not at all. The only expectation you should set is getting it done. Sometimes, you workout for 2 hours, burn all the calories, and feel amazing. Other times you do a steady walk or some yoga stretches, don’t burn hardly any calories, and feel like you’ve done nothing. But you did do something! You still did what you aimed to do. Even if you’re not preforming at your 100%, you’re still doing it. If this is cooking something new, try a crock pot recipe. Yes, it’s easy, and you’re not putting a ton of work into it, but it’s still getting done. That’s what matters, not how much you put into it. You’re building a habit, and your depression won’t always let you be on your A game. Be okay with that.
– Celebrate your wins! Some days, that’s washing your hair, or actually drying your hair after the shower. Some days, that’s doing a full face of makeup. Some days, that’s making your bed. Some days, that’s cleaning the whole house. Celebrate every single little win you have of the day. Because depression is HARD. You might feel like your small wins are simple things you should be able to do every day, and they are. But you are fighting with your own mind, and these “simple” things aren’t so simple. So appreciate yourself for every win you have.
This week, I didn’t do laundry, dishes, or clean anything in my house really. My workouts were small, but I showed up, even when I didn’t want to (at ALL). I didn’t go to the gym, I used our mini home gym in the basement and did lots of abs, cardio, small weight training, and Pilates. My small wins though, were 1. I wore makeup every day (even my day off), 2. I played lots of games with my son, 3. I did pick up trash that’s been accumulating on my nightstand (water bottles honestly), 4. I did some really productive stuff at work, and 5. I kept up with my journal every day.
So don’t beat yourself up too much this week, there’s so many of us suffering with depression. You’re not alone, and I know its 1000x harder for you to get your goals done with this illness. But we’re going to put up a fight this week and show up for ourselves. We’re going to celebrate our smallest wins and get stuff done together! I believe in you all!
See you next week!